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How to handle if you fail at the university?

Halaska Gábor | 2023-03-11
It happens to everyone. We can't avoid it, but we can learn to deal with your failures.

It happens to everyone. We can’t avoid it, but we can learn to deal with your failures.

It affects everyone, and the best we can do is learn the lessons and move on. There are times, however, when moving on is not so easy.

The reason for comon failures
You need to identify the cause of the failure. You need to be honest with yourself and admit if it was your fault, but it could also happen that reasons beyond your control led to the failure. Whatever the reason though, the important thing is that you should not search for the fault, but to find where to fix it.

Opportunity for improvement
Failure is the least painful for those who can see it as an opportunity to improve rather than a tragedy. Every failures is an experience. If you approach it constructively, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you can learn something from it much sooner.

Do not give up in case of faliure  – photo: Unsplash.com

Don’t put yourself in a “box of half-hearted”
After a failures, many people immediately conclude that they are not good at that thing. If you think like that, you’ll never be good, because it’s all part of a learning process. It can also help if you set realistic expectations for yourself.

Give yourself enough time
Failure is just a grieving process, so it’s good to give yourself time to experience all the emotions. There’s nothing wrong with negative feelings, anger and sadness, it’s better to let them come out than to try to suppress them inside yourself. Only after experiencing the emotions can you let it all go.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help
There may come a point when experiencing emotions and thinking positively doesn’t help, and you find yourself stuck in the pit and so depressed by the previous failure that you can’t move on. Don’t be afraid to contact even your academic advisor.

Plan your way forward – move on as fast as possible
Once you’ve put the past behind you and let go of the feelings, it’s best to make a plan for how to move on. After all, you already know what went wrong before, you also know what needs to change.