Why do most teenage friendships break up after a while?

Halaska Gábor | 2023-01-05
During the high school years, we make many friends and even more buddies, but by adulthood, very few of these relationships survive. What could be the reason for this?

Almost all of us think during our high school years that our friendships will last forever. Posting photos daily with the caption “best friends forever” (or just BFF) on various social networking sites.

But after high school years comes university, the first test for friendships. Because this is where you meet a lot of new people. New friendships are formed here, so you will have no time for the less close ones of the old friends, they drop out. Also, many people start their university studies far away from where they used to live. Moving into dorms or rent apartments.

Our original, hungarian article is here:

Miért szakad meg egy idő után a legtöbb kamaszkori barátság?

But the greatest test of the durability of friendships is not university, but what comes next: the world of work.

When you’re already working 40 hours a week (or more in reality) to make a living, then spending time with your friends will not be your main priority – especially in the first few years.

Common interests in friendships

You’ll be happy to find time to do sports, or watch your favorite TV show in the evening, or read a book. Especially if you’re in a relationship, because that takes up a lot of time too.

The ultimate “breakup test” is having children. People who don’t (yet) have children rarely organize activities with those who do.

For a high school friendship to last for decades, even into the twilight of your life, a very strong bond must form between two friends. At all stages of life, you need to make time for each other and have activities together.

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